behavior, inadvertently causing #First Date Fail for you? Did you find there were fewer Holiday parties to attend this past year?
Have your relatives stopped asking you if you're seeing anyone?
I doubted my worthiness to live in such a hip and happening place and felt that perhaps my turn to feel invisible had finally come.Offer a stranger a welcoming smile and minutes later you’ll have a new friend. As for the dating scene, I’ve found that overall, men actually prefer the company of women their own age, though if you’re so inclined, a lot of younger guys seem to be looking for a willing cougar to fulfill their Mrs. In my experience, most people here appreciate it when you do the best you can with what you have to work with.Granted, I don’t spend much time in Vegas’ “beautiful people” hot spots; at 51, I’m not about to parade around the pool at the Palms among the 22-year-old bathing beauties.Then he cut to the chase: "Is it OK for me to date? In fact, if I weren't married, I'd respond." The woman behind him — an impeccably groomed retired teacher with gorgeous red hair — confided that she'd just been abandoned by her husband of 39 years. I just want dinner, a movie and a little conversation with a man." Glancing at her cool-looking beads and earrings, I was tempted to ask her to accessorize me. "While you're at it," I went on, "tell everyone you know that you want to be fixed up." "That sounds scary." I couldn't argue with that. It was for me too, but the guys who delivered my Chinese food — the only ones I saw when I was newly divorced — weren't in the dating pool. But not taking one is even scarier." The lovely woman looked unconvinced, but I forged ahead." I hesitated, because that "for better or for worse / in sickness and in health" part of the marriage vows was echoing through my mind, and I'm a big fan of loyalty at all costs. " He said he lived in a small town and did not know any women. "He told me he wanted to be alone." She rolled her eyes, then flashed a nervous smile. I suggested she might find kindred spirits at events or on trips for educators, or simply by pursuing whatever activities and hobbies she loves. "Go out to eat in restaurants — alone, not with a friend. I had to leave my comfort zone just to come up to you." "But see? Now just keep going." I told her she was pretty, engaging and easy to talk to, and that men would find her likewise. "Go out for breakfast or lunch." I have no doubt she will.For me, breasts are an accessory: I put them on when I’m heading out on the town, and at the end of the night they’re back in the drawer and I’m sleeping on my stomach. Admittedly, the standards are higher here, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.Sure, the ads on the taxicabs presenting a lineup of shapely derrieres in thongs can tug at my insecurities, but that’s just the incentive I need to pop in a “Buns of Steel” video the minute I get home.You’ll even find Las Vegas tours to places like the Grand Canyon and Hoover Dam, packaged in a way that’s easy to understand and just plain simple to book.Most people move to Las Vegas buoyant with anticipation, but I arrived feeling depressed and deflated.Soon after I settled in, I began performing stand-up comedy at an open-mike stage, something I never would have done in a place where everyone had known me for 40 years. And what could be more visible than performing on stage?Overall, Las Vegas is surprisingly unpretentious and the people convey the vibe that judgment only gets in the way of a good time.