I have learned so much about what it means to be in a giving relationship in these four months, and he has been such a remarkable teacher of that. I think it’s always instructive for women to hear from other women that, despite all the frustrations you’ve had with dating and relationships prior to today, you don’t believe that “men” are the problem, and that, in fact, in this one instance, your boyfriend’s ex-wife was the weak link.
But, I want more at this point, and I don’t know if it’s a simple case of needing to be more patient to let things grow organically…if I just need to see things as they are and say that my needs aren’t being met and re-evaluate. This is far more common than we see here – specifically because most of the questions I post are from women complaining about men.
Balancing the demands of children, family, work, and friends requires patience and tenacity, and for many women, finding the perfect mate later in life may seem impossible.
When you're young and carefree, the world is your oyster, and courting someone feels like an anticipated hobby.
We’ve scrupulously avoided lying, but the omission is pretty misleading…) My boyfriend’s ex is sober and reliable if not particularly interested in being accommodating, so our challenges with making time for each other are more about being a long-distance relationship than about parenting responsibilities.
We went from dating other people to monogamous pretty much from the first date; the other milestones are well behind that “natural timeline.” It occurs to me that I should have one of these talks with my SO not because I’m excited to get married again but because I know he’s open to the idea and I should probably be careful that I’m not stringing him along.
This isn’t about whether he wants to marry you; that information will take a few years to suss out.
I feel safe and happy with him; when we’re together it feels like I’ve come home. Glad to hear you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a wonderful man.He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.I want a boyfriend that is able to invest in a serious relationship with me.I think he wants that too, but I don’t know if 4 months is too early to expect that of him because he needs to move slower than a childless man.On a blog catered towards men, you’d hear a lot more about selfish, volatile, emotionally unstable or unavailable women. I’m glad you asked this question, however, because it’s extremely common – and I’ve been dealing with it regularly in my Love U Community, which is filled with fortysomething single moms.And while I may not have written explicitly about this before, and may not have it as a core part of my curriculum, what I’m about to share with you is 100% consistent with other things I’ve said over the years. Make sure that your boyfriend wants to get married.I have been dating a wonderful man for about four months now.We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.We talk daily (if he has his son it’s usually by text, otherwise we chat by phone in the evenings), he makes it a point to see me once a week and we always have so much fun together.When we are together things are easy and fun, just as they should be!