Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Eventually, we told them, and about 2 years later our divorce was final…..[He also] knew that it would take me time to re-enter the workforce after having been a stay at home mom to our children, and that after we were divorced I would have no health insurance…
While it’s not always easy, try your best to be understanding and remember that there’s no need to feel threatened by his past.
Put the kids first Your new man’s kids will always come first to him, so don’t try to compete for his affection.
Even if you’re thrilled about the prospect of meeting them, be aware that you need to be the one to fit into their lives, not the other way around.
Well, this relationship flourished and we started dating exclusively. I felt that if I told him that truth he would be angry at me for not telling him sooner and not trust me….” Aaaand then, there are the folks who use separation as a testing ground for the supposedly-deceased marriage.
Consciously or not, these people are using you as a jealousy-inducer—a way to renew their marriage bonds and reinvigorate their spouse’s affections by showcasing how desirable they are to others: “….