, and many other relationship experts, playful bantering or gentle flirting with someone outside of your marriage is harmless if proper boundaries remain intact.Those boundaries differ with each relationship, of course.Social media sites and online interaction are pushing this issue to dinner tables across the country -- much more so than in the past.Katherine Hertlein, a licensed marriage and family therapist interviewed by Discovery News, explains, "You don't actually recognize that you're growing closer to someone on the Internet because it just looks like you're having a conversation, and that's why I think it could be really seductive in some ways." Hertlein believes that cyber cheating is especially appealing to women, because they can get their emotional needs met behind a computer in the comfort of their home.Some New York singles have it figured out: They pay a dating-app ghostwriter to do the flirting for them. The next time a guy sends you a particularly witty opener on Coffee Meets Bagel, consider the possibility that it was written by a 41-year-old married mother of two on the Upper West Side.That would be Meredith Golden, New York City’s Tinder whisperer.Golden is superior at the dating-app game, she told me, because she comes at it from a fresh, unbiased perspective.
" If you feel an uncomfortable knot in your stomach upon answering that question, there you go. If it feels like foreplay in any way, that's not good. If You're Spending a Considerable Amount of Time Talking to Him/Her.
Sitting at her headquarters — the large oak dining table in her classically decorated apartment — she showed me a folder on her i Phone home screen titled “WORK.” Inside, there are a dozen dating apps, like Bumble, The League, JSwipe, and Ok Cupid.
Golden logs in and out of all of them throughout each day, finding her clients appropriate matches and setting up first dates.
“I don’t have their relationship history or their childhood … She keeps a regular schedule, too, practicing her particular brand of dating subterfuge during normal business hours, Monday through Friday.
(No one should be perusing Tinder on the weekend, anyway, she said.