Back when I was a precocious, introverted youth who completely lacked charm, I tried online dating. Over the course of a couple years I, along with a team of friends, split tested multiple profiles, in multiple cities, on various sites, and gauged the opposite sex's responses to different messages, as well as what sequences of messages led to the best response.I totally struck out, which wasn't particularly surprising at the time. By this point in my life I had come out of my shell, all that, so I decided to try online dating again. By the end of my time doing this I had discovered many key tips and best practices for online dating, as well as many "copy-and-paste" message templates that routinely had a response rate hovering around 75%.
What follows are some of the things I learned during that time about sending effective online dating messages:1. On most dating sites, your profile photo will show up shrunken next to the message. Just like you would on Twitter or Quora, pick an avatar image that's iconic and sparks curiosity.
Fourth, he basically restated the obvious — many people on dating websites are looking for that special someone — so the words are basically wasted space!
Fifth, the email was all about what that person wanted instead of what I want or what interests me.
Boring usernames like "John21234" should be avoided.
Same goes for anything suggestive like "Big Package1".3.