"And it happens across the industry."Conru and AFF's CEO, Jon Buckheit, another Stanford Ph.D., boot up the site of a top competitor, Fling, and demonstrate how, shortly after registering, they are wooed by what appear to be bots. "We doubt it really is Megan Summers."In an email, Fling owner Abe Smilowitz writes, "We absolutely don't use fake profiles and bots…Us and AFF are pretty much the only guys that don't." This could be true. "We still think they do."To keep out the bots of spammers and hackers on AFF, Conru, who launched the site shortly after getting his doctorate as a means to meet women, codes his own countermeasures and frequently checks user names and IP addresses for veracity.Our trained peer advocates are available 24/7/365 to offer education, support and advocacy to teens and young adults, as well as their concerned friends and family members, who have questions or concerns about their dating relationships.
"They're not the only ones using fake profiles," says Marc Lesnick, organizer of i Date, the industry's largest trade show. in mechanical engineering design from Stanford, Conru is among the smartest and most respected people in the online dating business.You will never be asked for your name or other contact information, but an advocate may ask for your age and city to find local resources for you.Chat with a peer advocate by clicking on the “Chat Online Now” button at the top of the page. If you can’t or don’t want to talk to an advocate on the phone, we offer the same support via our live chat service on The live chat (IM-style) is not a public chat room.We use an internal messaging system specifically for young adults who need to contact a peer advocate — it is NOT a general chat messenger such as MSN Messenger, AIM, Yahoo Live Chat, Gchat or i Chat."It's definitely pervasive."have to to be careful of what I say," Andrew Conru, the founder and owner of Adult Friend Finder, tells me one morning in his corner office high above San Jose. Since he launched AFF in 1995, he's turned the site into a swinger-friendly empire that's discreetly mainstream — boasting over 30 million members who pay a month to find "sex hookups, online sex friends or hot fuck friends." But while Conru has enough millions to retire several times over, he's giving a rare interview to blow the whistle on the widespread use of sexbots in the business."The only way you can compete with fraud is you let people know it's fraud," he tells me.Please make sure you are in a safe space before you text. When you call, be prepared for the advocate to first ask if you are in a safe place to talk.Always delete the conversation after you finish to ensure that no one else can access your information. Once you are, the advocate will encourage you to explain your situation.If your situation is serious, we recommend calling or chatting first. Loveisrespect Text for Help Services are sponsored by Mary Kay Inc.As always, we at loveisrespect are concerned for your safety. Speak to a peer advocate by calling 1-866-331-9474.