Meanwhile, more and more of my friends were getting engaged, more and more of them started families, and I had never dated anyone for more than a few weeks. If Jewish women weren’t attracted to me, I’d go find women who were.This was my ulterior motive when I planned a trip up to New England.It’s an age-old stereotype, but that doesn’t mean it can’t ring true in many cases. Amongst Jewish men, you’re somehow less likely to find the “let the boy make it for himself; he has to earn it without my help” sort of attitude. Plus, his third-generation American status affords him more upward mobility.He may very well be thrilled to help you out with this, but not to the extent of getting over-excited and blowing it on a hair-brained investment scheme. You’ll inevitably get it wrong, compared with her version and her mother’s before her. This entails some excitement, possibly travel, and an executive position of your own?(Hint: Not graciously.) They tend to act like they feel lucky that pretty women even want to spend time with them, especially if those pretty women aren’t Jewish.Then they’re really surprised you want to spend time with them. He was most likely pressured to get this done since he was a kid.
But even while my relationships with non-Jewish girls fizzled, I still didn’t have any other options.
Since she wasn’t Jewish, though, a relationship with her didn’t seem possible; I thought of her as simply a good friend. I created an online dating profile on e Harmony, hoping that its mystical personality matching system would somehow do the job that I had proven unable to accomplish on my own.
We would chat with each other online virtually every day while I was in college, and even after I graduated. Before long the site gave me a listing of potential Jewish candidates.
I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.
In high school, this decision proved to be mostly moot. I tried not to follow up on them at first, but I was frustrated and lonely and had finite willpower.